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Is there anything hotter than a woman clad in a corset with a flogger or paddle in her hand as she stands over her bound submissive partner? Maybe there’s fear or another gleam in his eye because he secretly relishes the pain or teasing that’s to come. With the right partner, props and even costume, that image could be you!
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BEFORE WE BEGIN
Let’s address the elephant in the room, shall we? A lot of guides are going to give you advice about how to submit to your man. There’s nothing wrong with that, and you should check out this post, if that’s what you’re looking for. But those guides often assume that a male dominant and female submissive are the default way to practice bondage role play — Black Femdom Spanking tips here — or the only way to do it.
Those Guides Are Wrong!
Many women aspire to dominate their men, and same-sex couples can enjoy power exchange, too. That’s why femdom is so popular, and why large cities have booming dominatrix industries! Our interviews with dominatrixes should provide an eye-opener.
Whether you need to take control in the bedroom because you’re not quite at the top of the food chain at work or you simply prefer to retain control in as many aspects of your life as possible, you’re sure to find these femdom ideas thrilling!
You’ll especially enjoy the following list of femdom ideas if you feel a strong pull toward dominating your partner, but you can still get pleasure from these role-playing scenarios if you’re playing the role because your partner desires domination. In some instances, however, someone with a genuinely submissive streak may prefer scenes with someone who identifies as a dominant and going through the motions may not be enough on your part.
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We invite you to give these scenes a try if you’re still new to Nicole BDSM ; although, you might want to stick to the less intense scenes. This can help you decide how dominant you are. You might find that you prefer being on the receiving end or even that you enjoy both sides of play. People with those dispositions are known as switches, and it’s a great way to experience a wide range of sensations and emotions! Try our helpful guide to BDSM.
Occasionally, you may run into a man who declares, usually in a pompous manner, that women cannot be dominant. Feel free to walk away without any further exchanging of pleasantries. There’s no need to let a small-minded bully make you feel less.
Above all, enjoy trying something new even if it’s not something you try twice!
Of course, you might be looking for an idea to dominate your man because he has asked for it, perhaps even if you’ve never shown any interest in it. Whether it was your idea or not, you might wonder what the appeal of sexually dominating another person is. You might feel turned on but also a bit uncomfortable when it comes to the idea. After all, why would someone do that?
These are all normal feelings, and we’ll try to answer your questions as well as we can. When it comes to the appeal, it could be that donning these roles helps us escape our everyday life, whether the role involves giving up or taking control. Researcher Justin Lehmiller identified escapism as a potential reason why fantasies are so appealing [1 p 86]. And while he was specifically looking into fantasies, and not the reality of Black Femdom Spanking, it seems reasonable that it could translate.
Furthermore, while some of the femdom techniques might seem unpleasant or even cruel to your partner on the surface, you need to look beyond that. While you get something from female domination, your partner gets something from submitting. In fact, sometimes a dominant does something for their submissive, and it can be an act of love and care. Some people may even argue that domination is always a service!
Black Femdom Spanking fills in such an existential black hole, while opening a rabbit hole into a wonderland of sexual fantasies where subs can put down their social burden and jump into a thrilling new life by only serving and obeying dommes who take all control and make all decisions.
On top of that, there are practices to follow to ensure that while activities may hurt someone during a scene, they won’t harm them in the long run. You can take safety precautions such as negotiating the scene beforehand (perhaps with a contract), using a safe word, and following up with aftercare to minimize the risk of adverse effects when you play together. You and your man can figure out a checklist to know what you both want to try.